Five Signs He's Not That Interested
" If all you get are excuses, Listen to those excuses very carefully. "Women's intuition is as foolproof as Oprah's popularity. However, the radar does go wonky when your emotions become tangled like threads in a cotton candy roll. In matters of the heart, even an iota of doubt can ruin a good thing. If you are reading this, then you already smell a rat. Do you want to know sure-fire indicators to confirm what you already suspect? Read on.
1. Tele-tell Signs
This is the big daddy of all signs. Think back. Flip out the telephone records. Tally up the number of times you call versus his call-count. Do you think that you do most of the phoning? If he does call, often it is to cancel those carefully made plans of yours. He is conveniently busy, engaged, or maybe even ill, especially on weekends. Those numerous excuses that one pulls from the hat are a modus-operandi with Mr. Not-So-Right. If, three weeks in a row, you don't receive any calls by the weekend-and only apologies on Monday-have a girlfriend monitor your unhealthy dialing habits.
2. The Pop-Up / Vanish Act
You have finally exercised restraint. Still, you cannot stop wondering whether you are being too harsh or paranoid. Maybe you should stop reading all those articles that stereotype all men as jerks. Then, the doorbell or phone rings. It is him-joy to the world! He wants to do dinner and drinks. You are vindicated after the wine and profuse apologies. You make glorious love. All is right with the world-until you are still waiting for a call several days later. The cycle is vicious.
3. She is my, umm
When you do meet his family or friends, it is never very clear how he is going to introduce you. Are you a friend, colleague, or just Sara? Is it clear when he is with you that you are his girlfriend? Maybe you have not discussed it yet. If you call him on this one, all you get are excuses. Listen to those excuses very carefully; even through the rose-colored mist, you should be able to see the holes in them.
4. Last Minute Manipulator
He calls on Friday to make plans for Saturday night. Sometimes it is even Saturday afternoon. You cancel everything you have meticulously scheduled to fit in this wonderful evening. Then, he asks you to call and make reservations. If he were interested, he would make sure you are free and take care to make certain that he booked the table in advance. Men go the extra mile to please the woman they are serious about. Make sure you are treated the same way.
5. Check her out!
You are dreamily staring into his eyes over candlelight. He averts his gaze and lets out a low whistle. He brings your attention to a stunning woman that has just walked into the restaurant, or you find a certain name appearing a little too often in your conversations. At first, you are understanding and do not let the irritation show. Most men would ignore or just glance through their messages if they are with a woman they want to impress. They would certainly not launch into a message marathon. You are not his buddy. Discussions about how he would like to ask out the hot woman who just entered the restaurant are not a sign that you are high on his priority list.
The message will be clear when a man likes you. You will not have to dig through mixed signals. Men who want to please an attractive teacher at school are reduced to eager schoolboys. They will mail, call, and make certain that they spend every weekend with you. It could be possible that you have caught him at a vulnerable point in his life and he is cautious. Either way, if you are just not happy with the constant guessing games-move on. Find someone who is as into you as you are into him. Anything less is unacceptable.